Now, remembering that I was just there "because" and had not set any real goals or expected much to happen I will start with Friday night (actually for me it was Saturday morning because I left 5 minutes early to catch the train) where we were asked to write down our life values and then put them in order of priority.
It was a little confronting having to be so honest about this stuff but I'm really glad I did it. I admit that money was right up there under family and happiness - technically I had chopped up family into three different areas so money came in at #5. Then we were asked to write down to what percentage we thought we were taking positive steps forward to achieving fulfillment in these areas and what percentage we felt we were taking steps backward.
Then we were asked to write down what we thought the life values would be of someone we perceived as successful in a goal we would like to achieve and mine couldn't have been more obvious. Being that Saturday morning I was still quite unaware of what I was getting myself in for, the only goal that really came to mind at that point was to be a great mother.
So, I took stock of all the mums I perceive as great mums - obviously I'm sure they have their faults but as a whole I think they are amazing - and I noticed that they all make time for themselves. Whether that be a pilates class or swimming or yoga or going to dinner with girlfriends or ... whatever - you get the picture - they all do something that is just for them. And it's not usually a one off here and there but an, at least, weekly thing. And the other was support.
AND, when he asked if anyone had come up with anything, I put my hand up and spoke to a 200 strong crowd! ME! Miss "What will they think of me". I did it. And I was calm.
It felt really good and it was something that made me think that while I think "selfish" is a bad term, everyone needs to be. Just a little bit. And if your family isn't the support you had hoped for that doesn't mean there isn't any. Support comes from unexpected sources if you just say "yes please". I am learning to say "yes" a lot more.
So, that was the first thing that made me really think this seminar might not be so bad after all.
Oh and just to add, by the end of the seminar my values had not so much changed, although the family stuff all became one again which felt much better, but had definitely shifted in priorities. While family was still at the top, money was right down the bottom with everything else taking a priority. And it really feels like that. I know - and they said it too - that a lack of money certainly adds stress to our lives but it just didn't seem quite as significant as when I first arrived. I still think of it as very important in terms of our life and what we want to achieve but just not at the expense of other stuff, you know?
I will be back with more I promise but right now I have a teething baby that is going to be awake again soon so I need to get myself off to bed to try and get any amount of sleep she graces us with this evening.